Where Has the Finesse Gone?

  “I tell it like it is.” “I’m a straight shooter.” As a culture, we value honesty. We want people to be straight with us. We even ask people to stop beating around the bush.  But the more we hear these pronouncements, the less they seem to be about a desire for honesty and the…

How to Stay Assertive Around Intimidating People

  Assertive people stand up for themselves in an honest, respectful way. But you’re not alone if your assertiveness fades around certain types of people—authority figures, aggressive types, very outgoing personalities—people who intimidate you in some way. But “intimidation, like beauty, is in the eye of the beholder,” suggests Diann Winger, LCSW. And, although the…