Being Assertive Is all About Choosing the Best Words

  Speaking assertively means using direct, positive language. My 13-year-old daughter recently dodged a text from a good friend inviting her to sleep over. She didn’t want to because “she talks too much and always interrupts me when I’m talking,” my daughter explained. On the heels of a 4-day summer camp, she’d reached her tolerance…

Can You Get Fired for Discussing Your Pay? No Way

  You cannot be fired for discussing your salary with a co-worker. A young female friend recently asked for a raise and got it. (But don’t celebrate yet.) Later, when discussing it with co-workers after hours, she learned that she’d actually gotten half the raise a male colleague at the same level received, despite glowing feedback…

Why It’s Hard to Shake a Bad Impression

  Negative reputations or bad first impressions are hard to change, even when they’re inaccurate or there’s a behavior change for the positive. Why is that? Dorie Clark, writing for hbr.org, explains: “… our brains are optimized to conserve energy; if there’s not a compelling reason to re-evaluate something, then we won’t.” People don’t consciously…