Being Assertive Is all About Choosing the Best Words

  Speaking assertively means using direct, positive language. My 13-year-old daughter recently dodged a text from a good friend inviting her to sleep over. She didn’t want to because “she talks too much and always interrupts me when I’m talking,” my daughter explained. On the heels of a 4-day summer camp, she’d reached her tolerance…

Can You Get Fired for Discussing Your Pay? No Way

  You cannot be fired for discussing your salary with a co-worker. A young female friend recently asked for a raise and got it. (But don’t celebrate yet.) Later, when discussing it with co-workers after hours, she learned that she’d actually gotten half the raise a male colleague at the same level received, despite glowing feedback…

Why It’s Hard to Shake a Bad Impression

  Negative reputations or bad first impressions are hard to change, even when they’re inaccurate or there’s a behavior change for the positive. Why is that? Dorie Clark, writing for hbr.org, explains: “… our brains are optimized to conserve energy; if there’s not a compelling reason to re-evaluate something, then we won’t.” People don’t consciously…

Steel Yourself From Contagious Secondhand Stress

Time and again, studies show that stress is contagious. And scientists assure us that humans’ inclinations to get swept up in each other’s moods and stressors is hardwired inside brain cells called mirror neurons—giving us the desirable qualities of empathy and the ability to understand each other on an emotional level. But how can we…