Being Assertive Is all About Choosing the Best Words

  Speaking assertively means using direct, positive language. My 13-year-old daughter recently dodged a text from a good friend inviting her to sleep over. She didn’t want to because “she talks too much and always interrupts me when I’m talking,” my daughter explained. On the heels of a 4-day summer camp, she’d reached her tolerance…

Can You Get Fired for Discussing Your Pay? No Way

  You cannot be fired for discussing your salary with a co-worker. A young female friend recently asked for a raise and got it. (But don’t celebrate yet.) Later, when discussing it with co-workers after hours, she learned that she’d actually gotten half the raise a male colleague at the same level received, despite glowing feedback…

Take the Anxiety out of Performance Reviews

  Mention performance reviews in any office and you’ll get a litany of horror stories. Furious workers blind-sided with surprise criticism. Unfair appraisals tied to raises. Bosses giving everyone the same results to keep the peace. From the employee: Anger. Frustration. Anxiety. From the boss: Hesitation. Delay. Anxiety. And yet, the calls from the HR…