Being Assertive Is all About Choosing the Best Words

  Speaking assertively means using direct, positive language. My 13-year-old daughter recently dodged a text from a good friend inviting her to sleep over. She didn’t want to because “she talks too much and always interrupts me when I’m talking,” my daughter explained. On the heels of a 4-day summer camp, she’d reached her tolerance…

How to Stay Assertive Around Intimidating People

  Assertive people stand up for themselves in an honest, respectful way. But you’re not alone if your assertiveness fades around certain types of people—authority figures, aggressive types, very outgoing personalities—people who intimidate you in some way. But “intimidation, like beauty, is in the eye of the beholder,” suggests Diann Winger, LCSW. And, although the…

The Confidence/Competence Tangle

  “As women, we often wait until we’re competent before we feel confident, whereas men often feel confident before they’ve achieved full competence,” said Michelle Shepard, founder of the Women in Real Life (WiRL) leadership summit. In business, confidence plays a huge role in getting ahead. Hiring decisions, promotions, meetings … all put a businessperson’s…